Go gently, go softly the world is already too harsh of a place in this day and age of disconnection…well except for the internet we’re all connected to that hehe :p
When you are on a path of discovering your fullest potential it’s all too easy to focus on one aspect and forget it is the realisation of the whole of who you truly are and not just that one part of you.
A year ago I was self aware in terms of being soft and gentle but over time as I have gone through some transformational experiences that really shook me up and led me to where I am now, I am more self aware in terms of being a grounded and confident individual.
I feel I may have lost that old element of me.
…and it dosent feel good, that is how I know it’s a barrier in the way of recognising and embodying my authenticity to focus only on that one aspect.
Anything that feels less than good is a sign that you are not in alignment…it serves a purpose so don’t ignore it and follow the signals.
I have recently taken the time to retreat into myself and do what feels good, which is get back in touch with the side of me that has been withering away…the soft and gentle side.
I now know why I abandoned that aspect of me, a fear of being stepped on and disregarded which did happen but only because I had one without the other.
Seeing the people who were more ruthless in their tactics succeed created self-doubt but when I spoke to them there was always an emptiness, a void.
Manifesting your dream whilst abandoning your truth is never worth it.
It’s true that if you only embrace the gentle side of you then you will be in a more vulnerable position so instead it is all about finding that balance of staying grounded and confident whilst being soft and gentle enough to maintain your true, considerate and empathetic nature.
The problem for me is that I began replacing one for the other which didn’t feel good.
The first step to realisation and change-making is self awareness…being painfully self aware and in touch with your mind to the point where it is not self critical but instead acknowledgment and compassion.
That is the catalyst to great transformations.
So the question arises is authenticity and truth worth it at the expense of ruthlessly causing pain to others? The answer for me is no.
It doesn’t feel good firstly and secondly the world really needs more love and compassion it’s the least we can do to influence society…even on a small-scale in our communities, the numbers do add up.
Instead of passing a judgement that will hurt the other person and trying to justify ‘tough love’ which is not really love at all, offer out a hand in support, listen and if they ask then speak your truth with delicacy and consciously in regards to their perspective.
If nothing good comes of your interaction with a particular individual you find to be ‘too different’ to you…walk away…simple.
Follow what feels good and if being around them doesn’t feel good as it leads to conflict and a poisonous or toxic atmosphere, recognise that they are not in your calling and let all that potential hurt go by leaving.
We all have walked different paths and we all have different opinions on matters yet as humans we all understand how bad the lower vibrations and pain associated with that feels.
We should come together in that knowledge to help end suffering.
Even if you get a bad reaction at the end of the day as long as your intent was to stay soft and gentle, you know you tried your best and so you will not feel bad, I promise.